Transition in Life

Transition is the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another.

A life transition is any change or adjustment that impacts your life in a significant way. We all experience transitions throughout our lives — big and small, planned and unplanned. Transitions may be centered on something exciting, such as starting a new job or an addition to your family. But the Question Remains, What’s the desperation behind every man's transition, let’s put it this way what’s the story behind the transition of every man or woman.

Over time we have watched people RAISE AND FALL, SUCCEED AND FAILED, many struggled and made it in life, and many also struggled and never succeeded in life. Many have gotten so desperate to succeed and have made good and bad choices that have made them or mar them.

DESPERATION: This is the feeling of being in such a bad situation that you will take any risk to change it or lose hope and surrender to despair. : A state of hopelessness leading to rashness

  • 1.     How desperate are you to succeed
  • 2.     Will your desperation make you or mar you
  • 3.     How far can you go to succeed
  • 4.     Is success for every one of us
  • 5.     What are the consequences of success

 

 IS IT GOOD TO BE DESPERATE:  Desperation comes in a different form?

Desperation - another word for obsession - that's the only thing that will take you higher and higher when it comes down to things that ONLY YOU are in control of - career, your own personal growth, your lifestyle change, getting shredded, starting a healthy lifestyle, becoming a millionaire, etc., All these require only your effort - and desperation is the key to achieve big in anything you desire that you are in control of.

Oftentimes desperation is viewed negatively. But not here. Here desperation and obsession is the key to success. Single-minded focus is another name.

But in things that only you alone can't make a change - where it requires the effort of at least one person more than yours - there, desperation won't help. More so - desperation might actually make things worse.

If the people working with you in whatever it is are equally as desperate as you are - then growth will be multifold. But if they are not interested, they will find your desperation and interest off-putting and their desperation will be in the opposite direction, nullifying your desperation, sometimes even overtaking your desperation.

So, in relationships - you can apply that analogy. If you are desperate to get to know someone, coz you like them - or if you are desperate to improve the relationship with your significant other coz you love them and want the relationship to grow, but the other person doesn't want the same thing - the same way as you do - growth, or getting to know, whatever that is - your desperation will push them away even more.

I don't care about all those people who use the word DESPO like it's cool to call someone that without understanding what that person might be going through to be that desperate for something - issues rooted in childhood, harbored throughout their life, ultimately meaning their needing empathy, love, and help.

I care about those who care about this issue. Desperation isn't bad. But if it goes to a place where it disrupts your life or to a level where you can't get it out of your head - especially when it involves people other than just you - then it's bad.

When it's just you - desperation is the key to growth in anything. When it contains people in addition to you - have desperation if you want to, but refrain from showing that you have it in you and slowly show, an ill bit of it time and again - like controlling your fart and releasing it in installments. (lol)

 How desperate are you to succeed

There are things you do in life with relative ease. You don’t have to think about it, you just do it. It’s not that you’re supremely talented in this activity but it is simply taken care of.

But once you make this activity into a goal, even if it is something that you have done before, all of a sudden, you just can’t do it.

 

In this chapter, you are going to be reading about men and women who were so desperate in a good way. Come with me patiently

Bill Gates watched his first company crumble.

Bill Gates is now one of the world's wealthiest individuals, but he didn't earn his fortune in a straight line to success. Gates entered the entrepreneurial scene with a company called Traf-O-Data, which aimed to process and analyze the data from traffic tapes (think of it like an early version of big data).

He tried to sell the idea alongside his business partner, Paul Allen, but the product barely even worked. It was a complete disaster. However, the failure did not hold Gates back from exploring new opportunities, and a few years later, he created his first Microsoft product and forged a new path to success.

Walt Disney was told he lacked creativity.

One of the most creative geniuses of the 20th century was once fired from a newspaper because he was told he lacked creativity. Trying to persevere, Disney formed his first animation company, which was called Laugh-O-Gram Films. He raised $15,000 for the company but eventually was forced to close Laugh-O-Gram, following the close of an important distributor partner.

Desperate and out of money, Disney found his way to Hollywood and faced even more criticism and failure until finally, his first few classic films started to skyrocket in popularity.

 

Steve Jobs was booted from his own company.

Steve Jobs is an impressive entrepreneur because of his boundless innovations, but also because of his emphatic comeback from an almost irrecoverable failure. Jobs found success in his 20s when Apple became a massive empire, but when he was 30, Apple's board of directors decided to fire him. Undaunted by the failure, Jobs founded a new company, NeXT, which was eventually acquired by Apple. Once back at Apple, Jobs proved his capacity for greatness by reinventing the company's image and taking the Apple brand to new heights.

Listed above are stories of great men today who went through a lot in life and they succeed, legitimately  

 

Will your desperation make you or mar you?

This a story from a lady from the united state, who told me her story of how she was so desperate to succeed that landed her in very deep trouble.

How Nigerian Witch Doctor Scammed Me after Seeing I Was Desperate For Successful Career — American Woman

 

Mehrkens described herself as one who believed the occult could help her achieve her dreams of being a successful screenwriter.

A woman in the United States, Mary Mehrkens has narrated how a Nigerian witch doctor she met on Instagram tried to scam her of more money after initially successfully swindling her of $236 (N176, 500). 

Mehrkens described herself as one who believed the occult could help her achieve her dreams of being a successful screenwriter. However, rather than progressing, she instead remained as an assistant while her husband who held a different world view rose up the ladder in his career.

While trying to achieve a breakthrough in her career, Mehrkens said she got a message from the Nigerian witch doctor on Instagram which she took as a sign from the universe, particularly considering the sender's profile picture and page details.

 However, rather than helping her, he requested for $236 to purchase some items for a particular ritual and as some of the items can only be got in Africa, so she sent the money.

 After this, he gave some rules including: ‘Do as I say; Don’t hire another spellcaster; Don’t tell anyone about the spell and Don’t ignore me' adding that if she disobeys him, his spirits will haunt and possibly kill her.

 

Mehrkens didn't pay much attention to this until he requested for another $200 the following day as part of the ritual, she said this was when she realized that he was a scammer.

 Mehrkens was the type of woman that was so attached to the occult world, right from her tender age, always reading her horoscope, pulling tarot cards, doing occult stuffs. She said

 “And when I was a Hollywood assistant desperate to get that “break” as a screenwriter, I eventually used the occult to try to make it happen.

. As Sam my husband grew in the world of tech as a product manager, I plateaued as an assistant.

 “Friends from college were moving on ― making six figures, purchasing homes and starting families. I was approaching my late 20s with nothing to show but experience in fetching laundry and answering phones.

 “Meanwhile, I tried to level up in my writing career, polishing my screenplay, a contained thriller. But when I approached my bosses about reading my script, I was met with an “Oh, um… it’s really busy now. Ask in a few months. Can you grab me another coffee, I was so desperate for a change 

“So when a person describing themselves as a spell caster messaged me on Instagram, I knew this was a sign from the universe. “Hello. I am a spell caster,” the message read.

 “I clicked on the Instagram account, immediately pulled in by the profile photo of three magic candles and a five-pointed star. I noticed the account had more than 1,000 followers, and each image included elaborate descriptions of various spells performed for clients. This had to be legit.

“I do spell. Money. Career. Fame. Love. I guarantee 100% results,” they messaged. “I’d like to be a successful screenwriter,” I wrote back.

 “The spell caster listed off items he would need for the spell: cowries, 70 white candles, a dove. I didn’t have a dove lying around the house, unfortunately.

 “Luckily, it turned out the spell caster could acquire these items on my behalf for $136. That’s cheap in my mind. I once paid a famous tarot reader $400 for a session.

 “But then he said, ‘I think I need two other items for this spell because it will be powerful. But I can only get the items in Africa.’

 “This solidified my trust, knowing that the items used for the spell would be exclusive and not just some expensive fluff from a Los Angeles New Age store. So I agreed and coughed up another $100.

 “The next day, the spell caster provided a few rules.

 1. Do as I say.

2. Don’t hire another spell caster.

3. Don’t tell anyone about the spell.

4. Don’t ignore me.

 “Follow these rules and my spirits won’t harm you. If you disobey, my spirits can kill you within 48 hours,” he warned.

 “I am frightened yet too embarrassed to tell anyone about this situation. Only crazy people consult spell casters, right?

 “He called the next day demanding more money: “You have lots of dark energy, and I need to do another spell ASAP. I’ll need $200.”

 “I hung up on him.

 “Then he kept calling. Over and over again. I kept declining. Over and over again. All the while, I was at work, rolling calls for my producer boss. She was yelling at me to confirm a lunch reservation, but I couldn’t stop looking at my phone, worried for my life.

 “The calls continued.

 “By the time I got home, he was calling from a Nigerian +234 number. I blocked it. Then he warned via text, ‘I hope you know what you are doing. This is very dangerous. If you value your life, you will finish the spell.’

 “I cried, unsure what to do. I was pretty sure it was a scam, but what if it wasn’t? And that’s when I realized I had to confess to Sam, my atheist husband.

 “Babe, I don’t want you to get upset… I think I’ve fallen for a Nigerian spell caster scam.”

 “At first he didn’t blink. Then Sam asked, ‘Wait, are you serious?’

 “Yes.”

 “I expected him to be angry, upset or confused, but he understood. No eye roll. No ‘What magic New Age stuff did you spend money on now?’ Instead, he hugged me.

 “He knew how badly I wanted success and how desperate I had become. I had become so frustrated with the lack of growth in my professional life that I truly believed that the spell caster’s DM was a gift from the universe.

 “We changed my phone number, my Instagram and anything that could be searchable online.

 “My husband said, ‘A: You won’t die. And B: You don’t need spells for success. Just do the work.’ And that’s what I did. I went back to work, polishing my screenplay, writing every day, and reaching out to professional connections so I can have my material read by the right people.

 “I needed to reach out to professional mentors, not spell casters. And two years after the spell caster incident, I got the break in my career I’d been waiting for, becoming a true crime writer for an online publication and podcast.

So you see this is a true life incident,

Desperation not channeled to the right source will lead to absolute destruction; she was desperate to change her life at all costs, even up to the extent of patronizing an occult which was a scam.

Many have lost their destiny, due to letting their desperation consume them, it’s good to be desperate, but let your desperation be channeled to the right source just as, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, and Walt Disney channeled their Desperation to the right source, been desperate simply means NEVER GIVING UP ON YOUR DREAM, NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU FAIL, YOU WILL SURELY SUCCEED IF YOU DON’T LOSE FOCUS, keep your desperation and hopes alive

 

 

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1.     How far can you go to succeed

2.     Is success for every one of us

3.     What are the consequences of success

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